Some of the best stories and written works are fueled by true life tragedies. Think Maya Angelou and her strong stories. She spoke to millions of readers because she was powerful, her words were powerful. It was believable as it was in fact true.
You cannot fake genuine connections like this. Every person on this planet is carrying some form of emotional baggage, rooted in a variety of different things from bad breakups to broken families and everything smaller or larger impact than that.
Using your pain you can piece together a story that will resonate. Now, the decision for you will be, how will you share this information?
- Your Story or Is It Her Story? Writing your story in your own words with all the names and places intact will mean sharing the most intimate parts of your life. You need to decide how familiar you want your readers to be with you. You have options:
- Autobiographies: Writing an autobiography means telling the world, this is me and I am naked. Here is everything I have gone through–the good, the bad and definitely the ugly. These stories are potent and formidable. You may have gone through something similar to someone else and reading your story, hearing your strength, may help that person.
- Change the Character: If that is too intimate, you can write a story instead. The lead character (you) can be named something else, the location can be somewhere else and other minor details can be different. Some readers who know you incredibly well may still know it is a story about your life, but the larger public won’t know.
- Make it Part of Something Larger: Is there a specific event in your life that you want to share, but the other two options are too close to home? You can make your moment part of a much larger story. Do you have a poor relationship with a family member? Make that emotional luggage pay off with as part of a larger novel where many of the other details are changed as well as the surface things like names and places.
- Therapy: Dear Diary, today I decided to write down what I’ve gone through to help me cope. Writing is incredibly therapeutic. Writing your story and the tragedies and comedies involved in it, can help you understand yourself more. Also, bad things are toxic, write it down to purge that toxicity from your body. This can be shared in blog form, or incredibly private in written form under lock and key. You decide.
That being said, start out small. Perhaps write for your own personal benefit first. Once you feel stronger, consider releasing it to the world. You got this.